Have you read any of Gretchen Rubin's books? Full disclosure...I haven't read them even though I've checked them out from the library multiple times. Yet this morning (since I had a lot of time in the car!) I listened to a Lively Show podcast where she was interviewed and I was immediately intrigued.
Gretchen was on the show talking habits and human nature. She described four groups of people - obligers, upholders, rebels, and questioners. The idea behind the categories is that people respond to expectations in different ways. There are two different types of expectations - inner and outer expectations. Inner expectations might be something like "I'm going to wake up run every morning at 6 am" while an outer expectation but be "I'm going to meet a running group every morning at 6am."
Obligers tend to struggle with inner expectations but follow through with external expectations. Upholders tend to follow through with both their internal and external expectations. Questioners do a lot of soul searching to figure out what matters and therefore respond well to inner expectations but resist external expectations. And rebels tend to resist both outer and inner expectations. There is a quiz on her website that can help you figure out which category you fall into if you're not sure. And although she gives you a small write up on the type that you most associate with, you can get extended report by signing up for her newsletter.
I was interested at the ease at which I dropped myself into the obliger circle (I confirmed this by taking the quiz later on in the day). It struck me that this was perhaps why I loved yoga teacher training so much. I'm so productive and responsible when I'm required to do something with external expectations. I also liked her "it depends" approach to answering many of the interview questions. I appreciate the recognition that everyone and every situation is a little different and so the answer can't be determined until some questions are answered.
I put two of her books on hold at the library. I'm curious what the recommendations are for obligers specifically. Although I'm fairly adept at setting mini-expectations for myself and following through, they never truly become habits for me. I've always thought this was something I needed to change about myself. Her responses made me think that she encourages people to work within the framework of the category by setting up tools to help people be sucessful.
Did you take the quiz? Were you able to group yourself right away too? Any thoughts on her books or her categories?